Joe D’ Mango’s LOVENOTES
Published June 24, 2001
Dear Joe,
Just call me Bea. I’m a fourth year nursing student from a prestigious medical institute. I sent you a letter because I want to express my loneliness.
I’m the youngest in a brood of six. My mom passed away a few months ago. And my dad is looking for a new wife. My sisters are happily settled with their own families. On every family reunion, my family expects to see me “with someone special.” But they’ve always been disappointed because until now there hasn’t been anyone.
I fell in love with my childhood sweetheart when I was 16 and he was a year older. We were the best of friends. He was teacher’s enemy #1 while I was the topnotcher from elementary to high school. My family and relatives didn’t like him at first but I was able to finally convince them to accept him.
Then I found out that he and my best friend had an affair. I was devastated. For months, I cried each day. My grades went down. And out of rebellion, I gave my virginity to someone I barely know. I learned to smoke and drink alcohol. I slept with other guys.
Though it wasn’t easy, I picked the pieces of my life with the help of my family. I regained the friendship of old and true friends who never condemned me for what I did. I confined myself to my books and guitar, where I found peace of mind.
Right now, I’m living in a dorm and trying to have a life again. But sometimes, I find myself still pondering on the question: Am I not good enough? I don’t really understand why I feel this way. People say I should not be lonely because I’m very intelligent, smart, beautiful and has a good sense of humor.
Every time I try to get into a relationship, it always fails. I’m so tired of waiting for that “someone” who’ll wipe my tears away. What if that “someone” doesn’t exist? What if that “someone” comes along at a time when my heart is already exhausted? Does it always have to happen at the wrong time and place? Or is something wrong with me?
BEA
Bea, being miserable in love doesn’t always mean that there is something not right about you. The worst can happen even to the best of people whose only mistake was loving too much and leaving nothing to themselves. It is only in a relationship when two halves don’t make a whole, only two wholes make one perfect body.
Being inspired when love runs smoothly can be the best high one can ever get in a relationship. But, depending too much on someone for our completeness will take a serious toll on us when that person decides to leave. Most of the time, we become like little helpless children, longing for directions and guidance.
It is all right to feel complete when we are with someone. But when that person goes, we should not feel worthless because we are still who we are. Nothing has changed, except for the fact that we’re all by ourselves. Yes, we may be alone and lonely but that doesn’t mean that we are not worthy of being loved or finding love again.
Bea, I’m glad that you are back on your feet again. Our mistakes can be our greatest teachers. You have learned your lesson well. Now, you have to stop asking why you had to go through all of these. Our trials in life are part of a cleansing process that will make us better and stronger persons. You must have been with the wrong people at most of the wrong times. But there will definitely be a right time for the right person. Let us remember that sometimes, the people who make us smile are the very same people who will make us cry. And our tears can either become a flood that will destroy us or a precious water that will bring life to withered emotions.
Published June 24, 2001
Dear Joe,
Just call me Bea. I’m a fourth year nursing student from a prestigious medical institute. I sent you a letter because I want to express my loneliness.
I’m the youngest in a brood of six. My mom passed away a few months ago. And my dad is looking for a new wife. My sisters are happily settled with their own families. On every family reunion, my family expects to see me “with someone special.” But they’ve always been disappointed because until now there hasn’t been anyone.
I fell in love with my childhood sweetheart when I was 16 and he was a year older. We were the best of friends. He was teacher’s enemy #1 while I was the topnotcher from elementary to high school. My family and relatives didn’t like him at first but I was able to finally convince them to accept him.
Then I found out that he and my best friend had an affair. I was devastated. For months, I cried each day. My grades went down. And out of rebellion, I gave my virginity to someone I barely know. I learned to smoke and drink alcohol. I slept with other guys.
Though it wasn’t easy, I picked the pieces of my life with the help of my family. I regained the friendship of old and true friends who never condemned me for what I did. I confined myself to my books and guitar, where I found peace of mind.
Right now, I’m living in a dorm and trying to have a life again. But sometimes, I find myself still pondering on the question: Am I not good enough? I don’t really understand why I feel this way. People say I should not be lonely because I’m very intelligent, smart, beautiful and has a good sense of humor.
Every time I try to get into a relationship, it always fails. I’m so tired of waiting for that “someone” who’ll wipe my tears away. What if that “someone” doesn’t exist? What if that “someone” comes along at a time when my heart is already exhausted? Does it always have to happen at the wrong time and place? Or is something wrong with me?
BEA
Bea, being miserable in love doesn’t always mean that there is something not right about you. The worst can happen even to the best of people whose only mistake was loving too much and leaving nothing to themselves. It is only in a relationship when two halves don’t make a whole, only two wholes make one perfect body.
Being inspired when love runs smoothly can be the best high one can ever get in a relationship. But, depending too much on someone for our completeness will take a serious toll on us when that person decides to leave. Most of the time, we become like little helpless children, longing for directions and guidance.
It is all right to feel complete when we are with someone. But when that person goes, we should not feel worthless because we are still who we are. Nothing has changed, except for the fact that we’re all by ourselves. Yes, we may be alone and lonely but that doesn’t mean that we are not worthy of being loved or finding love again.
Bea, I’m glad that you are back on your feet again. Our mistakes can be our greatest teachers. You have learned your lesson well. Now, you have to stop asking why you had to go through all of these. Our trials in life are part of a cleansing process that will make us better and stronger persons. You must have been with the wrong people at most of the wrong times. But there will definitely be a right time for the right person. Let us remember that sometimes, the people who make us smile are the very same people who will make us cry. And our tears can either become a flood that will destroy us or a precious water that will bring life to withered emotions.
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