she always get into love triangles

Joe D’ Mango’s LOVENOTES
Published November 11, 2001

Dear Joe,

I have always listened to your program, but I never thought I’d write to you one day. I’m sure you’ve encountered stories about love triangles but it would really mean a whole lot to me if you feature my story.

Several years back I met Jaymee. My friend Marla invited me to a dance party without telling me that her boyfriend Stephen was coming with us. Not knowing who we were going to be with, I immediately said yes. At the time I was going steady with Ricky, but I did not tell him about the party because I wanted to be alone. I felt Ricky was doing something behind my back.

Marla’s cousins were kind enough to dance with me, but I still felt left out. I sat down for a while when suddenly a guy in a baseball jersey and jeans asked me to dance. Boy! Was he great! His name was Jaymee and we instantly connected. He took me home after the party and it was like we’d known each other for a long time. We were already holding hands. Jaymee was very compassionate, very expressive and very gentle. I felt a certain spark that night after the party. Ricky never made me feel that way.

I tried to convince myself that what happened between Jaymee and I that night was a spur-of-the-moment kind of thing. I even thought of using Jaymee so I could see Ricky, whom my parents never really liked. Jaymee started calling me, but I found out he was committed to someone else. I thought everything would stop, but Jaymee kept denying his relationship with the other girl although his friends told me differently.

Jaymee and I had no serious commitment because it was just not possible. I knew he loved his girlfriend more than he loved me although he said otherwise. After thinking about it for while, I decided to let him go. He said he would respect my decision even if he did not agree with it.

I cried when he started singing, “You’re feeling kinda lonely, girl, would you like someone new to talk to?” “sharing the Night Together” was our first favourite song. When he saw the tears in my eyes, he stopped and said, “I will always love you.”

The way we ended things was very dramatic. I never thought loving someone could be so complicated. Falling in love with the wrong person could only bring so much pain. I still miss him. I smile every time I hear the song “Sharing the Night Together” because it always remind me of him. I will always love him. How do I pick up the broken pieces of my heart?

BROOKES

It seems that you are prone to getting into emotional triangles. First your boyfriend Ricky and then Jaymee. You very well know that they both have other girls but you still got involved with them, well, maybe not for long, but certainly long enough to cause you pain and disappointment. A lot of people say “always” when they say “I love you” to someone. They sound so sure that what they have will last for eternity. Most of those who thought their feelings would not change often wake up in disbelief that what they thought would last forever was already gone.

I honestly believe that you deserve better than Ricky or Jaymee. Someone who believes that happiness is looking after the needs of the people close to his heart. Someone who values the feelings of others. I’m glad you finally decided to get out of Ricky and Jaymee’s vicious game of love. It’s a fresh new start and I hope that you won’t fall into the same trap again. Be a little more careful in getting involved with any man so that you won’t have to disentangle yourself again from a web of passionate and crippling emotions.

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