Dear Joe,
I’m Jamie, and this letter is long overdue because this happened five months ago. I met Jon in September when we were both new hires for our company. We kept seeing each other, and I got attracted to him. After a month, I found out that he liked me, too. I started avoiding him, but then we had a chance to talk intimately during our Christmas party and, unexpectedly, we kissed.
Then I got confused. Why did I let that happen? What about my boyfriend? To keep things from getting worse, I broke up with my boyfriend and told Jon that we should just be friends. Despite my decision, he didn’t stop pursuing me.
I decided to give him a chance. Every moment with him was bliss. Everything seemed to be going smoothly until someone came between us.
Jon and Sarah had something going long before I came along. But they didn’t have the chance to continue things because Sarah unexplainably drifted away until they lost touch. Now that our story had started, Sarah suddenly came back.
Jon told her that he already had a girlfriend, but Sarah persisted. She continued to act as his girlfriend, even introducing Jon to her family as her boyfriend. Jon felt trapped. He was also very open to me about what was happening so I felt confident that there was nothing to worry about.
Then suddenly, Jon broke up with me. He told me that he needed time to get out of the trap he was in. so I let him, hoping that he would soon come back to me. But he didn’t. I soon found out that Jon and Sarah were back together.
I wasn’t really surprised, but it hurt me so badly, Joe. To this day, I still cannot accept the fact that it’s over between us, but I’m having a hard time letting go. What’s wrong with me? How can I move on, Joe?
Sincerely,
Jamie
Jamie,
I have always said, time and again, that the hardest people to forget are the people we love. Only when we don’t love them anymore can we truly move on and explore the possibility of finding love again in the arms of someone else.
You said you’ve accepted that it’s over between you and Jon, but you still haven’t accepted that the guy you have loved so much is in love with someone else. Deep in your heart, you’re still wishing for his return. These thoughts keep you connected to Jon. Unless you are able to find a way to detach yourself from your wishful thoughts then it will be very difficult to move on.
Most of us live in the past even if it hurts because we would rather mourn over lost love than take the risk of loving again. We shut our eyes, ears and our hearts to people around us and to the hope of finding love again.
Jamie, we all have our own sad stories to tell. Others even have worst experiences with the people they have loved. But no matter how painful life and loving can be, God never fails to give us strength to bear it. He never fails to let the sun shine through even during the darkest and stormiest moments in our lives. He makes us cry, not to make us miserable, but to make us realize how important love is. And most of all, he takes away a person from us, not because we don’t deserve him but because he has someone better for us. That’s how it always works, Jamie. Give yourself a chance. You just have to believe that there is still life after losing love and sometimes, that life will be better because it can be shared with someone who’d love you more than anything else in this world.
Joe
.
.
No comments:
Post a Comment